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Paternity Fraud Harms our Kids

Posted January 3rd, 2010 by admin

The harm caused by paternity fraud is not in doubt.  Consider this…  A poll in Women’s Day discovered that 56% of surveyed women admitted that they would lie about paternity in order to get child support.  Women who named potential fathers in the US result (via DNA Tests) in over 30% of these men not being the real dad.. were determined to not be the biological father of the child.  But the State has decided that they want the victims of paternity fraud to have no recourse.  That if your husband, son, father, or you are found to be “the dad” then they will be forced to pay… forever.  And the damage inflicted on marriages, families, the health of the victim, his family, and the deceived children themselves is preventable and unnecessary.

And it looks like your all alone with nowhere to go.  Pleading to Legislatures to put truth and justice into the system falls on deaf ears.    You see, States collect big money in Federal funds every time they can say “we’re collecting child support“.  As long as they can name anyone and make them pay the State government gets the benefit of Federal largess.  There arn’t support groups, financial assistance, counseling, or any other help available to the families who are paying for children they had no part in bringing in to this world.  “But what about these children?” is a common rebuke we hear.  Well, let’s look at it?  Because their mother made the decision to lie about who the real dad is these children are endangered by the hiding of their family medical history.  They are damaged emotionally because their own mother lied to them about who their real dad is.  Money collected on their behalf cannot fix this.    Only honest and open truth can.

The only person benefiting from this fraud are these mothers that either chose to lie, or simply doesn’t know, who the real dad is.  This is not in the childs best interest.  By attempting to force parental relationships where they do not exist is considered by many States to be the right thing to do.  We’ve looked at many cases and in most of them there has never been any contact with the children, the mother has prevented contact, or there is a large geographic seperation between them.    Sometimes this is the man’s choice.     However there are hundreds of thousands of cases where all these mothers really want for their child is money. They do not believe that having a father in their child’s life is important and even if they do they are ignoring the real father of the child.  When these children learn that the man they thought was their father, isn’t… a wound that can never heal is inflicted upon them.    Then they also have the stress of wondering who is their father and where do they really come from.  All since their mother either doesn’t know who fathered her children or has chosen to lie about it.

Looking at the real children of this same man….  They have to live with a father who is stressed out, financially burdened and demoralized by an unfair justice system.  These children will have to live with emotional and financial suffering for their lifetime. Many times these children are in an environment filled with stress, hardship, and marital difficulty caused solely by paternity fraud.    They should not have to endure these hardships.  They see that committing fraud and lying pays.  What message is being received by our kids because of this?    Allowing paternity fraud is definitely not in their best interest.

We need to think of our children and stop this injustice.  We need to force Missouri to make the read dad pay. To let the legislators know that anything less than full truth and justice is unacceptable.  We need to put a stop to paternity fraud in Missouri and the whole country.  Our children cannot afford less.

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